Phoenix, AZ
Oklahoma City, OK
Tulsa, OK
Galesburg, IL
Lisa’s story turned six-days ago on May the 3rd when Connie and Maureen therapists told Richard that Lisa was answering increasingly more complex and difficult questions (with head nods and shakes). Further, she answered quickly and consistently, thereby reached a new and higher achievement level in her rehabilitation.
Maureen and Connie were well prepared for what was coming next; so with Connie supporting Lisa, Maureen asked, “Lisa, do you understand what happened to you? Then, Lisa, who was quite awake and alert, promptly replied, “No” (with a negative head movement). And, so Ladies and Gentlemen, that was how and when Lisa first comprehended the significance of the cardiac arrest she suffered. Also, Maureen was determined to maintain the high level of trust between her and her patient, so she kept the information that Lisa received factual and straight forward Lisa’s situation was factually explained to her in detail.
Do you realize what just happened? Lisa understood them. That word, “understood” is a good news word as it indicates that important parts of her brain are in good shape and that the therapists believed, Richard was told, "... with hard work Lisa was going to make a good recovery." (You will find out later, if Lisa is buying in to this or not.) Maureen then asked her if she understood what she was being told and once again Lisa replied, “Yes” indicating, I understand what happened.
Richard and Lisa’s first conversation since February 23, 2006 the day her cardiac arrest occurred May 03, 06. It was truly a breakthrough day for all concerned. Richard was able to resume a conversation with Lisa that dates back to the day of her cardiac arrest. Their discussion had to do with an obligation of Richard’s to retry a death penalty case for the family of Debra Sue Carter who, in 1982, was murdered in Ada, Oklahoma. While in any other context this would be a private conversation between a husband and wife, its details reveal that Lisa’s memory, values, judgment, and fierce determination to be a mother to her son are completely intact.
Richard first asked if she recalled their conversation about Richard going to Ada to retry the murder case. Lisa immediately nodded. “Yes.” He continued, “Is it still okay for me to go back and do this?” Lisa again nodded “Yes.” “Honey," Richard said, "I want to talk with you about taking care of Michael during the trial. Is that okay?” Lisa nodes “Yes.” Then Richard asks, what he embarrassingly admits was a poor question, “Sweetheart, Dad and Sherry have been taking care of Michael, and will keep taking care of him, is that okay?” Lisa emphatically nods “No.” Connie, herself a Mother, and-just as important-not a lawyer, interjects, and says, “That was a bad question. I don’t think that Lisa understood.” So, Connie clarified that Sherry and Dad care for Michael during the day while Richard is at work, and when he’s in Phoenix with you; and it is only temporary... until you get strong enough to return home.” Connie then asks, “Is that okay?” This time Lisa nods, “Yes.” Then, Richard said, “… because Honey, you and I are going to raise this boy…” And before he could complete his sentence, Lisa interrupts Richard with an emphatic “Yes ” Later in the conversation Lisa indicated she wanted more time to think about the situation.
While other decisions remain for Lisa and Richard, another conversation with Maureen and Connie confirmed that Lisa has been left with her spunk and red headed attitude intact. Then, nearing the end of this grueling therapy session, Connie tells Lisa, “We have 10 minutes left in your session, and I’m going to give you a choice. You can have a lemon pop to suck on (the lemon juice soaked cotton swab is no small temptation for a dry-mouthed patient in rehab.) or you can work your torso. To pick the lemon pop just look over to where they are on the counter, to pick the exercise start moving your torso”
Those who know (or have come to know) Lisa won’t be surprised to read she immediately started moving her upper body. Connie, though, wanted be sure. “Lisa I need to know you made a choice. Would you please look over at the lemon pops just to show me you can?” Lisa stops moving, raises her eyebrows in disdain and stabs a look over at the lemon pops and back towards Connie, than without missing a beat, begins moving her torso again. Message received, Lisa you’re want to come home; the lemon pops can wait!
Bruce Bowers, one of Lisa’s Rangers, volunteers to provide Lisa with range-of-motion therapy. Bruce is a true friend to Lisa and Richard. Here is part of an e-mail he sent to Richard after midnight on the 3rd of May. I provide it so you can appreciate the unsung impact of his and other Lisa’s Rangers are making to assure her future well being.
Bruce writes: “Lisa has casts on both legs (from a little below the knees to 3/4s the way down on her feet)--these are to help with the foot drop-- and braces on both arms. These were new since we saw her last week. When we arrived, her base pulse rate was 105. We dispensed with the elbow extensions because of the braces--it looks like their purpose is to keep her arms extended. We did three reps of the arm raising with each arm, 3 minutes per rep. Her right shoulder seemed to be tighter than her left and her pulse went higher with the right arm, especially on the first rep. We also did three reps of 3 minutes at each stop for her legs. She did very well with everything with her legs--great hip rotation and very relaxed throughout the entire range of motion. She actually fell asleep while we were doing her legs and her pulse rate went down to 78 for a bit. She was alert when we first got there and blinked her eyes in response to questions. There are a bunch of birthday cards from family, friends and her nephew's class in school on the walls. It was an encouraging evening. BWB”
So Sherry, baby Michael and I rolled out of Oro Valley, AZ on Tuesday April 25th for
Galesburg, Illinois, we retuned on Friday, May 6th. In that time, we drove 3,600 miles in our motor home, signed a listing with Century 21 to sell our house, gave a ton of stuff to the Galesburg Rescue Mission to get the house ready to show, said our goodbyes, introduced Michael to his Grandmother Beverly with Laura's support and assistance, had a gathering of Sherry's daughters and their families: Kevin and Dana Smith and their kid’s Allison and Andrew (they drove down from Minneapolis, MN); Barry and Kris Hitchens and their twins, Carly and Cooper (they drove up from Decatur, IL), Laura and her husband James, who lost his father during this time, were of immeasurable help to us, and I need to thank them for their wonderful help, we got the RV serviced and headed back to Arizona by way of Tulsa and Oklahoma City.
In Tulsa, we introduced Michael to Nicol and Donna Wintory, my brother and sister-in-law. They drove to Tulsa from Ft. Smith, Arkansas and rendezvoused with us for lunch. They fell in love with Michael, and I must say it was a wonderful to see them again.
Next we drov
e Midwest City, OK. Unfortunately, we were 3-hours late getting to the Hampton Inn. In spite of our tardiness, we were greeted with a marvelous reception that Jack and Napua Davis arranged. We were very, much honored to meet the 40 to 50 friends, relatives, and colleagues of Lisa and Richard who gathered to meet Michael. For Sherry and me, it was especially nice to see Suzanne and Collin Goodspeed again. We met them at Lisa and Richard’s wedding and again at Wintory’s in AZ. Lisa’s brother David, sadly, was called to Atlanta on business the day we arrived so we missed seeing him. Everyone was completely taken by Michael. He quickly got into being the center of attention and was content to be admired, held and cuddled by most everyone there. Napua prepared wonderful Hors D’oeuvres in the form of southern fried chicken and finger-licking-good, short ribs, and more for the guests to enjoy, and lucky they did because we were horribly late in getting there. Jack and Napua are gracious and kind. We spent the night at the Hampton Inn and woke to find biscuits & gravy and fresh hot coffee, mmmmmm good way to start the rest of our journey
Richard called us while we were en-route and asked us to bring Michael to Phoenix on our way home. He was there with Lisa After, some grumbling on my part, we did and I’m glad we did because Richard was really excited to see his son. Then on Sunday, Jim and Ann Peterson (who had been caring for Maggie) drove Lisa’s dog to visit Lisa; making Richard birthday May 7th the first time since Feb 23rd that they Richard’s family were together. It was a very happy weekend for them and Maggie.
Michael
Oro Valley, AZ
mlwintory@msn.com
Napua & Jack Davis, and the "Reception Committee" are from Linda Thompson. Sherry's daughters and grandkids: Kris & Dana w/Michael, Cooper (8) Andrew (6) Carly (8) and Allison (9).
Oklahoma City, OK
Tulsa, OK
Galesburg, IL
Lisa’s story turned six-days ago on May the 3rd when Connie and Maureen therapists told Richard that Lisa was answering increasingly more complex and difficult questions (with head nods and shakes). Further, she answered quickly and consistently, thereby reached a new and higher achievement level in her rehabilitation.
Maureen and Connie were well prepared for what was coming next; so with Connie supporting Lisa, Maureen asked, “Lisa, do you understand what happened to you? Then, Lisa, who was quite awake and alert, promptly replied, “No” (with a negative head movement). And, so Ladies and Gentlemen, that was how and when Lisa first comprehended the significance of the cardiac arrest she suffered. Also, Maureen was determined to maintain the high level of trust between her and her patient, so she kept the information that Lisa received factual and straight forward Lisa’s situation was factually explained to her in detail.
Do you realize what just happened? Lisa understood them. That word, “understood” is a good news word as it indicates that important parts of her brain are in good shape and that the therapists believed, Richard was told, "... with hard work Lisa was going to make a good recovery." (You will find out later, if Lisa is buying in to this or not.) Maureen then asked her if she understood what she was being told and once again Lisa replied, “Yes” indicating, I understand what happened.
Richard and Lisa’s first conversation since February 23, 2006 the day her cardiac arrest occurred May 03, 06. It was truly a breakthrough day for all concerned. Richard was able to resume a conversation with Lisa that dates back to the day of her cardiac arrest. Their discussion had to do with an obligation of Richard’s to retry a death penalty case for the family of Debra Sue Carter who, in 1982, was murdered in Ada, Oklahoma. While in any other context this would be a private conversation between a husband and wife, its details reveal that Lisa’s memory, values, judgment, and fierce determination to be a mother to her son are completely intact.
Richard first asked if she recalled their conversation about Richard going to Ada to retry the murder case. Lisa immediately nodded. “Yes.” He continued, “Is it still okay for me to go back and do this?” Lisa again nodded “Yes.” “Honey," Richard said, "I want to talk with you about taking care of Michael during the trial. Is that okay?” Lisa nodes “Yes.” Then Richard asks, what he embarrassingly admits was a poor question, “Sweetheart, Dad and Sherry have been taking care of Michael, and will keep taking care of him, is that okay?” Lisa emphatically nods “No.” Connie, herself a Mother, and-just as important-not a lawyer, interjects, and says, “That was a bad question. I don’t think that Lisa understood.” So, Connie clarified that Sherry and Dad care for Michael during the day while Richard is at work, and when he’s in Phoenix with you; and it is only temporary... until you get strong enough to return home.” Connie then asks, “Is that okay?” This time Lisa nods, “Yes.” Then, Richard said, “… because Honey, you and I are going to raise this boy…” And before he could complete his sentence, Lisa interrupts Richard with an emphatic “Yes ” Later in the conversation Lisa indicated she wanted more time to think about the situation.
While other decisions remain for Lisa and Richard, another conversation with Maureen and Connie confirmed that Lisa has been left with her spunk and red headed attitude intact. Then, nearing the end of this grueling therapy session, Connie tells Lisa, “We have 10 minutes left in your session, and I’m going to give you a choice. You can have a lemon pop to suck on (the lemon juice soaked cotton swab is no small temptation for a dry-mouthed patient in rehab.) or you can work your torso. To pick the lemon pop just look over to where they are on the counter, to pick the exercise start moving your torso”
Those who know (or have come to know) Lisa won’t be surprised to read she immediately started moving her upper body. Connie, though, wanted be sure. “Lisa I need to know you made a choice. Would you please look over at the lemon pops just to show me you can?” Lisa stops moving, raises her eyebrows in disdain and stabs a look over at the lemon pops and back towards Connie, than without missing a beat, begins moving her torso again. Message received, Lisa you’re want to come home; the lemon pops can wait!
Bruce Bowers, one of Lisa’s Rangers, volunteers to provide Lisa with range-of-motion therapy. Bruce is a true friend to Lisa and Richard. Here is part of an e-mail he sent to Richard after midnight on the 3rd of May. I provide it so you can appreciate the unsung impact of his and other Lisa’s Rangers are making to assure her future well being.
Bruce writes: “Lisa has casts on both legs (from a little below the knees to 3/4s the way down on her feet)--these are to help with the foot drop-- and braces on both arms. These were new since we saw her last week. When we arrived, her base pulse rate was 105. We dispensed with the elbow extensions because of the braces--it looks like their purpose is to keep her arms extended. We did three reps of the arm raising with each arm, 3 minutes per rep. Her right shoulder seemed to be tighter than her left and her pulse went higher with the right arm, especially on the first rep. We also did three reps of 3 minutes at each stop for her legs. She did very well with everything with her legs--great hip rotation and very relaxed throughout the entire range of motion. She actually fell asleep while we were doing her legs and her pulse rate went down to 78 for a bit. She was alert when we first got there and blinked her eyes in response to questions. There are a bunch of birthday cards from family, friends and her nephew's class in school on the walls. It was an encouraging evening. BWB”
So Sherry, baby Michael and I rolled out of Oro Valley, AZ on Tuesday April 25th for
Galesburg, Illinois, we retuned on Friday, May 6th. In that time, we drove 3,600 miles in our motor home, signed a listing with Century 21 to sell our house, gave a ton of stuff to the Galesburg Rescue Mission to get the house ready to show, said our goodbyes, introduced Michael to his Grandmother Beverly with Laura's support and assistance, had a gathering of Sherry's daughters and their families: Kevin and Dana Smith and their kid’s Allison and Andrew (they drove down from Minneapolis, MN); Barry and Kris Hitchens and their twins, Carly and Cooper (they drove up from Decatur, IL), Laura and her husband James, who lost his father during this time, were of immeasurable help to us, and I need to thank them for their wonderful help, we got the RV serviced and headed back to Arizona by way of Tulsa and Oklahoma City.In Tulsa, we introduced Michael to Nicol and Donna Wintory, my brother and sister-in-law. They drove to Tulsa from Ft. Smith, Arkansas and rendezvoused with us for lunch. They fell in love with Michael, and I must say it was a wonderful to see them again.
Next we drov
e Midwest City, OK. Unfortunately, we were 3-hours late getting to the Hampton Inn. In spite of our tardiness, we were greeted with a marvelous reception that Jack and Napua Davis arranged. We were very, much honored to meet the 40 to 50 friends, relatives, and colleagues of Lisa and Richard who gathered to meet Michael. For Sherry and me, it was especially nice to see Suzanne and Collin Goodspeed again. We met them at Lisa and Richard’s wedding and again at Wintory’s in AZ. Lisa’s brother David, sadly, was called to Atlanta on business the day we arrived so we missed seeing him. Everyone was completely taken by Michael. He quickly got into being the center of attention and was content to be admired, held and cuddled by most everyone there. Napua prepared wonderful Hors D’oeuvres in the form of southern fried chicken and finger-licking-good, short ribs, and more for the guests to enjoy, and lucky they did because we were horribly late in getting there. Jack and Napua are gracious and kind. We spent the night at the Hampton Inn and woke to find biscuits & gravy and fresh hot coffee, mmmmmm good way to start the rest of our journey
Richard called us while we were en-route and asked us to bring Michael to Phoenix on our way home. He was there with Lisa After, some grumbling on my part, we did and I’m glad we did because Richard was really excited to see his son. Then on Sunday, Jim and Ann Peterson (who had been caring for Maggie) drove Lisa’s dog to visit Lisa; making Richard birthday May 7th the first time since Feb 23rd that they Richard’s family were together. It was a very happy weekend for them and Maggie.
Michael
Oro Valley, AZ
mlwintory@msn.com
Napua & Jack Davis, and the "Reception Committee" are from Linda Thompson. Sherry's daughters and grandkids: Kris & Dana w/Michael, Cooper (8) Andrew (6) Carly (8) and Allison (9).
